The lives of Rachel and Andreas Simon
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Unspoken Sisterhood
There is an unspoken sisterhood
A group of women with babies born still
Those who’ve made it through
Those who’ve had the will
We are strong, perseverant and determined
That is without a doubt
But we are no longer whole
We’re brokenhearted and empty throughout
We’re driven to find others who can understand our pain
The turn our lives have taken being so unplanned
We’re overwhelmed with confusion and questions
Yes, we’ve been dealt a raw hand
We thought we’d be fulfilled and joyful
Getting little babies to bring home
But in the blink of an eye, we’re empty-handed
Altered paths we’re left to roam
Now we seek the answers to questions unthought-of
Not researching the assumed baby rashes and remedies
With the Internet as our source
Instead we read blog after blog of dead babies
So it’s this way that we learn of each other
Through websites, blogs and notes
Otherwise complete strangers
With an experience of which we cannot gloat
It may sound strange to others
But about our loss we can freely talk
In each other we seek comfort, support, a shoulder on which to cry
You can’t fully comprehend until in our footsteps you walk
It’s like we’ve known one another all of our lives
And we realize there’s only one side to this coin
This is why we are so thankful for each other
But truthfully, this is a sisterhood you never want to join
-Rachel Simon
A group of women with babies born still
Those who’ve made it through
Those who’ve had the will
We are strong, perseverant and determined
That is without a doubt
But we are no longer whole
We’re brokenhearted and empty throughout
We’re driven to find others who can understand our pain
The turn our lives have taken being so unplanned
We’re overwhelmed with confusion and questions
Yes, we’ve been dealt a raw hand
We thought we’d be fulfilled and joyful
Getting little babies to bring home
But in the blink of an eye, we’re empty-handed
Altered paths we’re left to roam
Now we seek the answers to questions unthought-of
Not researching the assumed baby rashes and remedies
With the Internet as our source
Instead we read blog after blog of dead babies
So it’s this way that we learn of each other
Through websites, blogs and notes
Otherwise complete strangers
With an experience of which we cannot gloat
It may sound strange to others
But about our loss we can freely talk
In each other we seek comfort, support, a shoulder on which to cry
You can’t fully comprehend until in our footsteps you walk
It’s like we’ve known one another all of our lives
And we realize there’s only one side to this coin
This is why we are so thankful for each other
But truthfully, this is a sisterhood you never want to join
-Rachel Simon
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Baby
Saturday, January 10, 2009
The Life of Shiloh
Jan 23rd 2008 - the day you were conceived
Feb 20th 2008 - we found out we were expecting
Mar 3rd 2008 - our first ultrasound - it was too early; you were barely a jellybean!
Mar 31st 2008 - our second ultrasound - now a jellybean! We were given your due date, Oct 30th
Apr 22nd 2008 - the end of week 12 (we thought we were in the clear)
Apr 25th 2008 - you started to make mommy’s tummy grow!
May 11th 2008 - I’m your mom! My first Mother’s Day!
June 19th 2008 - our 3D ultrasound - you were a healthy little GIRL!!!
July 2008 - we started calling you little baby Shiloh Jayden
July 7th 2008 - we started painting and decorating your nursery
Aug 25th 2008 - our first childbirth class - so exciting!
Aug 27th 2008 - your first concert - Jack Johnson
Aug 30th 2008 - baby shower #1 - you got so many adorable things!
Sep 6th 2008 - your second and last concert - Xavier Rudd
Sep 10th 2008 - my first birthday (28) as your mom!
Sep 15th 2008 - we hired a doula to help mommy birth you
Sep 20th 2008 - we went to the baby fair and got you lots of free baby things!
Oct 3rd 2008 - our first appt with your pediatrician
Oct 4th 2008 - baby shower #2 - you were so spoiled!
Oct 8th 2008 - we installed your carseat- we couldn’t wait to put you in it
Oct 18th 2008 - we took pregnancy photos - I LOVED being pregnant
Oct 25th 2008 - your first and last football game
Oct 26th 2008 - 11.15 pm - the last time I felt you move
Oct 27th 2008 - the worst day of our lives…. we found out that you had died inside of me.
Oct 28th 2008 - you were born at 1.18 pm. 39 weeks and 5 days - 6lbs 5ozs - 18.5 in long. The umbilical cord was wrapped around your tiny neck and body. You were the most perfect, most beautiful baby I have ever seen.
Oct 29th 2008 - you were cremated
Oct 30th 2008 - your due date…
Forever - you will be loved and missed
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Baby
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Flashback

I flashback.
Disbelief
Chaos
Despair
The confines of a hospital bed
Pain in my abdomen
Exhaustion
Liquid ice draining into my spine
Whispers
Pushing out your lifeless body
Silence
Tears
Isolation
Deep sorrow.
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Baby
Monday, January 5, 2009
Shiloh's Photo Montage
This is a photo montage that I’ve created of Shiloh's short life and the endless joy that she has brought us.
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Baby
Saturday, January 3, 2009
The Cord

We are connected, my child and I,
by an invisible cord not seen by the eye,
It’s not like the cord that connects us ‘till birth,
this cord can’t be seen by any on earth.
This cord does its work right from the start,
it binds us together, attached to my heart
I know that it’s there, though no one can see,
this invisible cord, from my child to me.
The strength of this cord, is hard to describe,
it can’t be destroyed, it can’t be denied.
It’s stronger than any cord man could create,
it withstands the test, can hold any weight.
And though you are gone, you’re not here with me,
the cord is still there but no one can see.
It pulls at my heart, I am bruised, I am sore,
but this cord is my lifeline as never before.
I am thankful that G-d connects us this way,
A MOTHER and CHILD.... Death can’t take this away!!
- Author unknown
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Baby
Monday, December 29, 2008
Letter to Shiloh #5
A few weeks ago, Daddy and I hung up a star for you at Light Up A Life. Your star was the most beautiful- we put your photo on the front; ah, how gorgeous you are.
It was so hard to contain our emotions, so we let the pain wash over us. Crying, of course, came naturally and was a welcomed release. We still cannot believe that you are gone forever, Shiloh. It’s so damn final and I hate that we can do nothing but accept it.
It has been a tormenting 9 weeks and the pain does not seem to subside. For every week that passes I think about how old you would be and what you would be doing by now. You would be lifting your head, looking at me, smiling, cooing… doing cute baby things.
The apartment feels so empty without you. Even though you never came home with us after you were born, we are surrounded by your belongings and consumed by the memories of when you were alive, inside of me. Those memories are still so vivid and I cherish each and every one of them. And I promise you Shiloh, you will always be remembered, not only by me and by daddy, but also by family, friends and even strangers. Your brief life has touched so many other lives and we are so very proud of you.
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Baby
Friday, December 19, 2008
Light up a Life
On Dec 7th, Andreas and I hung a star in memory of Shiloh at Light up a Life hosted by SB Hospice. A memorial tree at the Labero Theater was illuminated with hundreds of sparkling lights, each symbolizing a tribute to a loved one, as well as a donation to Hospice in memory or in honor of that loved one. It was an extremely sad moment for us. We still cannot believe Shiloh is gone forever.
We also hung a star in honor of my father who has pancreatic cancer at the young age of 63. Life is so cruel.
We also hung a star in honor of my father who has pancreatic cancer at the young age of 63. Life is so cruel.
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Baby,
Dad,
holidays,
Light up a Life
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